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Getting Along with Others
By: Lone Heron
Author of Inherited Rage-available at amazon.com

Getting along with others seems to be a real challenge for many, including myself.. I like the ideal of getting along with others but it doesn’t always seem to work out to well. I say that because if you aren’t agreeing with them,you probably aren’t going to get along with them. You can try, but likely you will keep getting hung up on that same old disagreeable snag. Or at least that seems to have been my personal experience. I can agree to disagree, but I seem to have difficulty sitting silently by and keeping my mouth shut! It’s really quite ironic when you consider I spent the first twenty years of my life keeping my mouth shut -fear is a powerful motivator – i guess II have made up for it the last twenty years of my life and now I find myself reverting back to being a quieter, less volunteering person- what’s the point when no one hears or remembers?

What’s the point of asking when the people you have asked have proven time and again they don’t really care about what’s up with you because their drama is soooooo much more important…
We all have people like this in our lives and even when we take time out to focus and try to help them, they don’t really appreciate it. They take everything you have to give and then want more but they don’t want to reciprocate anything to feed the flow of energy. Oh no- to get these people to do anything to help you is about as difficult as freezing water in hell.

You can ask nicely, bargain, offer a fair trade, beg, cajole, pester, annoy and they just smile agree and then ignore- or pretend the conversation never occurred. But these same people won’t blink an eye in hesitation the next time they see you before they launch into what they need from you. These people are I have decided evil and insincere friends. Sincere friends want to help. They offer their help and actually follow through instead of just talking about it.

I think the time has come to weed my garden of insincere friends- those who will take my help all day long- those who feel no qualms to ask of me whatever they like with no thought of reciprocation- it reminds me of what the nazis did to the Jewish, and of what a parricide parent does to create a parricide child.

The give and take energy is out of balance- take take take- more more more- it’s all over the place in our society and until we learn how to draw hard boundaries it will continue to be picked up by group after group to try and succeed where prior groups have failed- the trail will be followed by many until enough realize and consciously divert the heard by drawing boundaries and choosing how they engage,instead of wasting energy helping others who do not reciprocate and who do not reinvest the energy wisely given them by those who helped them. ” Waste not, want not ” – ageless wisdom. Yet so many of us seem to forget this, we waste and squander and then look for someone else to refill the proverbial gas tank. The proverbial gas tank is filled when others pay attention to us. The quality of attention could be comparable to the quality of fuel in your vehicle.
If the gas has been contaminated your car won’t run as smoothly. If the person listening to you can’t tell you what you said 5 min after your conversation was over because they interrupted to tell you something about a totally different subject – well all the energy you spent on that particular conversation was wasted. And without reciprocal energy investment you end up feeling drained and empty. It’s just part of the cycle of life- checks and balances that need to occur in order to maintain harmony- makes since when you apply it to your checking account – but many never apply that thought to their time. If more considered it I bet I could get along with those people a whole lot better.

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Crapper Laws

By: Lone Heron

It’s been a couple of years since I have written a blog. A lot has happened. I quit blogging because I built a house. I just didn’t have enough time to manage house construction and keep my focus on blogging.

Dan Dailey, one of the people who helped me start blogging passed away. Dan passed away just before Thanksgiving 2016. When I first started blogging , my intention was to support Dan and the work he was doing to support those who had survived parricide and bring more awareness to their plight. I wrote blogs for about 5 years supporting Dans fight to help victims of parricide’. By the time I quit blogging I had lost much of my motivation- reality does not mince words on possibility and if’s are to ambiguous to create a plan around.

Dan and I had many discussions and arguments about what was beneficial and what was not. What was possible and what was not…We agreed on many things but there were many more things we disagreed upon. This inability to get on the same page crushed my enthusiasm and motivation. The inability to fight an unjust system left me with lil inspiration and I turned to construction. Construction is all about doing and action gets things done. I am a doer – to much talk and I start to lose interest.

Construction is a different kind of education. Through the process I learned even more about how the government rules our choices. Did you know housebuilding codes requires a minimal of 21 inches of free space in front of the toilet? This minimum is required because so many people pass out while on the toilet and hit there head and give them self a concussion or worse in some cases -so now the code has the 21″ clearance rule to protect us from ourselves while we are on the crapper.

I find it flabbergasting that the government require’s code to build a house safely and correctly but doesn’t require anything of parents except their capacity to screw and produce.

Absentee and abusive parents fail to give kids the guidance they need – but the government doesn’t fail to create a guide to make sure that crappy parent is safe from the crapper.

Ironically a lot of bad things happen to kids that do involve the crapper- my mother locked me in the crapper room for three days and fed me white bread slid under the door on a paper towel to show me what jail was like. I’ve read horror stories of parents handcuffing their kids to the crapper and then molesting them.

I built a house with no lockable doors on my crappers- no body’s ever going to lock me in the bathroo again. Fortunately code does not require lockable bathroom doors- though the code man did his best to convince me I needed them,. Code does require thumb locks on the inside of external doors in case of fire and you can’t find your keys.

The government seems to want to protect us from everything except our parents. I wonder when they will make laws to protect children from crapper parents instead of just locking them up in thumbless cell locks that I am pretty sure would trap them inside in the event of a fire.

Thank you for reading and have a beautiful blessed day!

Alternative Healing for Everyone!
By: Lone Heron
Author of Inherited Rage avail on Amazon.com

We all love Dr Oz- and the information he brings but what do we do with all of that knowledge?

Alternative health has really hit the mainstream. It is big business and it seems everyone wants to join the movement towards better health by whatever means possible. There are massage therapist, chiropractors and herbs on every corner along with at least a dozen different alternatives in between. From common food elements on the grocery shelf to essential oils to magnets and water filtration systems. Better life styles WILL be attained, but at what cost?

How do you, as a consumer with little to no background in alternative health care know which path to choose? Which proprietor to join? Which herb to take or not to take? It can be a confusing industry for the new consumer.

Massage and chiropractic – Many do not fully comprehend the difference between these two modalities. Chiropractors adjust bones. Massage therapist address soft tissue issues. Each practitioner will blend from different styles and modalities to facilitate desired results.
A poorly trained therapist can do more damage than help, where as a therapist who applies the wrong modality will just waste your money.

Vitamins and herbs – Which ones are good and which ones are not? Just because the label says they are good for you does not mean it’s true. Just because Dr Oz or any other doctor says it does not mean it is true. How do you really know? Many foods are medicines and will help balance and eliminate many health issues minor and major but which ones are they?

Muscle testing- kinesiology Is a very simple muscle strength test that can guide you to get answers from your own body – it never lies and does not have an agenda on your wallet. I believe this is one of the ways to find out what your body needs and I believe everyone should take the time to learn this form of communication with their own systems. Having the knowledge of muscle testing allows the capacity to ask your own body anywhere, anyplace, anytime a simple yes or no – positive or negative question: Will this product, person,situation….. Benefit me? Yes or no?

I use kinesiology regularly when buying things in the grocery or vitamin isle. Wayne dyer demonstrates the technique and shows how you can even determine if music is good or bad for you. I find kinesiology to be invaluable to assist clients to make choices that help them as opposed to hinder them. If you are interested to know more ask your alternative care practitioner about kinesiology – if they don’t have an answer, that might be a sign for you to dig a lil deeper into the alternative world yourself.

Wandervogel Diary

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Back in July, I expressed my deep discomfort with Facebook and the new way of making “friends” in our era of social networking. Now it appears that I am not as much of an outlier as I’d thought.

According to a report on NPR today, some younger users of Facebook say that using the site often leaves them feeling sad, lonely, and inadequate. Browsers of the “perfect lives” of other people leaves them thinking that their real lives are very imperfect, indeed.

A new trend is emerging among these most intense of digital users: many in their teens and 20s are leaving the social network altogether. I personally believe this is a very positive development—if these Facebook dropouts will do something to make their real lives more meaningful and interesting.

I think too many people are paralyzed in inaction because they can’t decide what kind of act to commit…

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Getting Along with Others
By: Lone Heron
Author of Inherited Rage-available at amazon.com

Getting along with others seems to be a real challenge for many, including myself.. I like the ideal of getting along with others but it doesn’t always seem to work out to well. I say that because if you aren’t agreeing with them,you probably aren’t going to get along with them. You can try, but likely you will keep getting hung up on that same old disagreeable snag. Or at least that seems to have been my personal experience. I can agree to disagree, but I seem to have difficulty sitting silently by and keeping my mouth shut! It’s really quite ironic when you consider I spent the first twenty years of my life keeping my mouth shut -fear is a powerful motivator – i guess II have made up for it the last twenty years of my life and now I find myself reverting back to being a quieter, less volunteering person- what’s the point when no one hears or remembers?

What’s the point of asking when the people you have asked have proven time and again they don’t really care about what’s up with you because their drama is soooooo much more important…
We all have people like this in our lives and even when we take time out to focus and try to help them, they don’t really appreciate it. They take everything you have to give and then want more but they don’t want to reciprocate anything to feed the flow of energy. Oh no- to get these people to do anything to help you is about as difficult as freezing water in hell.

You can ask nicely, bargain, offer a fair trade, beg, cajole, pester, annoy and they just smile agree and then ignore- or pretend the conversation never occurred. But these hese same people won’t blink an eye in hesitation the next time they see you before they launch into what they need from you. These people are I have decided evil and insincere friends. Sincere friends want to help. They offer their help and actually follow through instead of just talking about it.

I think the time has come to weed my garden of insincere friends- those who will take my help all day long- those who feel no qualms to ask of me whatever they like with no thought of reciprocation- it reminds me of what the nazis did to the Jewish, and of what a parricide parent does to create a parricide child.

The give and take energy is out of balance- take take take- more more more- it’s all over the place in our society and until we learn how to draw hard boundaries it will continue to be picked up by group after group to try and succeed where prior groups have failed- the trail will be followed by many until enough realize and consciously divert the heard by drawing boundaries and choosing how they engage,instead of wasting energy helping others who do not reciprocate and who do not reinvest the energy wisely given them by those who helped them. ” Waste not, want not ” – ageless wisdom. Yet so many of us seem to forget this, we waste and squander and then look for someone else to refill the proverbial gas tank. The proverbial gas tank is filled when others pay attention to us. The quality of attention could be comparable to the quality of fuel in your vehicle.
If the gas has been contaminated your car won’t run as smoothly. If the person listening to you can’t tell you what you said 5 min after your conversation was over because they interrupted to tell you something about a totally different subject – well all the energy you spent on that particular conversation was wasted. And without reciprocal energy investment you end up feeling drained and empty. It’s just part of the cycle of life- checks and balances that need to occur in order to maintain harmony- makes since when you apply it to your checking account – but many never apply that thought to their time. If more considered it I bet I could get along with those people a whole lot better.

Survival- this picture says it all!

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Wandervogel Diary

My kids have been absolutely wonderful to me since I had this stroke. I have talked with Henry every week. Paco has called repeatedly. I spoke with Sarah three times today–she is driving her daughter to Disney World. I don’t think I would have gotten through this thing in one piece were it not for my kids.

My friends have been wonderful, too. Dusty has called to check in on me. Paul called me the day after he returned from Brazil. Lone Heron has called almost every week.

inherited rageLone Heron–a pseudonym–I have learned so much from her and her experience as a parricide growing up. I have learned so much from her book Inherited Rage. I have concluded that parricides are a breed apart, situationally defined, no danger to me nor to society, and that our best bet is to convince a prosecutor that the “typical” parricide should not be…

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